Mary Poppins may have said it best when she said, “In every job that must be done, there is an element of fun. You find the fun and – SNAP – the job’s a game.”

Growing up my dad (an entrepreneur who went on to found Help-U-Sell Real Estate) enjoyed his work and he often told me just how important he believed it was find work that you enjoy.

During the years that Tony Robbins was a client of mine there were dozens of times when I heard him say how important it is to “enjoy the process”.

This was horrible… 

Last week I witnessed a personal “melt down”. A person I worked closely with succumbed to stress after months of tireless work. We were volunteers together on an event planning committee and the pressure of the final days before the event was just too much. She ended up missing the event she had worked so hard on. She had lost sight of the importance of finding the “element of fun”. She forgot to enjoy the process.

I’m sure you can relate. Running a small business is chock full of things that can be viewed as stressful. It’s easy to feel that the weight of the world is on our backs. Here’s what’s ESSENTIAL, at least to me, I MUST enjoy the process.

I understand my own personal psychology. I know that I control how I view the world. I control the level of importance I place on things. Rather than viewing an event as catastrophic I can CHOOSE to view the event (or person) as fascinating. I can CHOOSE to be amazed rather than overwhelmed.

Remember the Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

We tend to lose sight of the “element of fun” when we try to change things we can’t change (like other people).

I felt incredibly bad, and sad, for the person who just couldn’t take anymore. It was NOT the events that were a problem; it was her way of viewing them. She could have changed her view in a heartbeat and had a great time. She could have relished in feeling of great accomplishment but she CHOSE (albeit unconsciously) to focus on the things she could not change.

We have all been in this place, and we may be again. This is just a reminder. We CHOOSE how we view the people and events in our lives.